Do You Even Remember Octobers My Birthday

One of the greatest tricks the devil ever pulled was having women thinking they didn't need a man to help raise a child.

I remember the day after my birthday I get a text, not phone call, but a simple generic happy birthday text from my dad. This has occurred the last three years making me assume he's forgotten that my birthday is the 27th, not the 28th. What urkes me is that people that have known me less than three years know when my birthday is and don't give me simple generic greetings. I told 'em my actual birthday and he tried pacify the situation by offering Grizzly tickets.

Since he gets season tickets he thought that could erase the anger and pain I was feeling, but my pride would not allow it. I just told him I'm good and that it wasn't needed because now his funds weren't needed and that I can buy tickets to any game I want and damn near sit where I want. The text conversation was getting to the point where he called me.

I made sure he video chatted me so he can see I was on island enjoying life. I don't do things for the reaction, but the pain that was embedded in me just had to let him know that I didn't need him anymore and that I've made it this far and Im doing pretty well for myself. I felt like I had to let him know my momma step up and handled his responsibility even though I know deep down she didn't handle everything.

I made it without a felony, I graduated, and go to college, but it's some things only a man can teach. I never had a father tell me about not putting a razor on my face to avoid that nestle crunch, the proper uses of condoms, the definition of hard honest work, and other things that get overlooked. Fathers need to be a boys first role model, drug dealers & gang members shouldn't be who a child looks at as a positive figure.

A lot women get so caught up in being super mom and think those cs checks are enough that they neglect the psychological toll that is having on the child. I hated going through a childhood where I had to suffer, but I never wanted my mom to feel like she failed. I always wanted her to feel like she was the best and that our family wasn't anything less than the Huxtables. I never wanted to have her feel shame, so I kept all that to myself. To this day I always thank her for those sacrifices, but I think these single parent households are destructive to the black community especially.

I can't speak on women, but sometimes a boy just needs to know he's loved by his father, because its been times I cried in my bed asking why and making excuses that maybe it was my mothers fault he wasn't around. When it wasn't he just wasn't ready, but she had no choice because that's what women are being programmed to do. I love my super momma, but women shouldn't have to be superheroes. A man should never feel its okay to walk away, because those who are admitting that they are worthless anyway.

Ps...If you don't do anything, at least remember your child's birthday.