Heterosexual privilege sounds amazing, but when your heterosexual guilt gets you intoxicated with your feelings and it’s chased with religion then things get difficult. The easiest sin for me not break is not practicing homosexuality.
I feel that’s one of the reasons society can freely discriminates against gays. I feel as though gay discrimination is prevalent because it’s the easiest sin not to break for people. As a society we get so caught up in the theory of "good & bad," that we don't allow for any grey area to deem anything acceptable. I can recall being around 10 years old and my brother told me he had a gay co-worker, I vividly remember asking, "Did they fire her?" He explained that that's against the law, but as a child it seemed as though I was sub-consciously trained to believe that homosexuality was bad and an abomination not only to religion, but also to a stable society in general. Is God’s word to blame for these thoughts, or the religion that man is proselytizing towards us?
I’m notorious for biblical comments of, "I don't know the verse, but I know it's in there." I judge others even though I know it's against God's law, but I do it. I know I sin daily, but knowing the fact that I can repent gives me the thought that it will be forgiven. They say GOD is all knowing and makes no mistakes. Why would he make some gay when the act of homosexuality is supposedly against his word, but make majority of everyone else straight? Like in the book of JOB does he allow this to happen to test their faith? Seriously, if you know something is a sin, but you continually act on it is that sort of like your rebelling against GOD? Since I'm judging does GOD equally look down on me as he would gays?
Can I change my views on a lifestyle that I’m ignorant to? Why does this heterosexual privilege give me the constabulary theological justification to convey to others on how God wants them to act? We have conservatives and religious officials trying to exorcise people over what they feel is a decision. They try to use religion as a divine cure and treatment. So if God make no mistakes then why are we allowing man-made rewiring of God’s work? Why can’t homosexuals being allowed the same human privileges that I enjoy? The government says that they try to separate church from state, but how can one separate his religion from this sin in particular. How can we bridge the gap? Will GOD judge me for being cool with those of different sexual orientations if it’s supposedly against his word? However, the bible tells you to love all your neighbors though. These contradicting messages in a man written book continue to perpetrate these mixed feelings.
The struggle of trying to advocate for a lifestyle that I’m not involved may seem easy for those who are waving the different flags, in the streets marching, and consistently fighting for equality, but for a man that has nothing to gain it’s difficult to find the piece of the puzzle where you fit in. If you ask a majority American they will tell you that they are for equal rights for all, but I feel as though sub-consciously men in particular feel as if they are vocal advocates that they have a fear that gay men will be drawn to them. Rights should be for all people no matter who you are or the practices that you exercise, but you’d be a fool not notice that segregation among people of separate orientation is still segregated to a certain extinct. Is it possible to completely endorse a lifestyle, but still uncomfortable at times be surrounded by it, or even talking about?
Heterosexual privilege is very common even though you may not realize it. I can talk of sexual relations and I won’t be judge for it. The most that people will say is that the place where speaking on it isn’t appropriate. I’m not segregated due to my preference, I won’t get stared at while on dates because me taking a woman out is “normal.” I’m never looked at as the straight guy, I’m judged in my circumstances my character and ethics that I represented. I never have to explain the image in which GOD made me. All that seems well and good until you start feeling like you’re apart of the problem.
When you’re consistently telling yourself that gay equality is an issue that you shouldn’t be involved in because it’s not your struggle when does that make you just as guilty as those people protesting and screaming faggot? I don’t want to be that straight black guy marching surrounded by a bunch of rainbow colored flags. I don’t want to make others uncomfortable. Why should I care about helping gays live in a world that accepts them? It’s not my issue! You get those voices telling you that if you stand up for gays what will others think of you? Nobody wants to be the one suspected as the “closet faggot.” You get that feeling that you are allowing ignorance to roam free because you choose to silent your voice box due to fears of you receiving judgment that millions of others are murdered, are killing themselves, discriminated, and being ridiculed for.
How can I be the black man who fights for freedom of equality for those who share my pigmentation, but refuses to even stand up and say equality should be for all no matter the color or sexual preference? How can I accept gays being looked at in America as the lesser when there was a time when the openly treatment towards gays was openly practiced those who resemble me? Those who sit when the have the option to stand up are no better than the ones who scream “faggot”, “homo’s”, “dyke” etc.
Over the past few years I understand that we all come from the same creator and we all deserve the same chance at the same opportunities. Whenever we crack open room for discrimination in any place then we open the door for discrimination everywhere. No laws can change society’s views only thing that can change the way of the world is us. Once you take away the fear and hate you’d be surprise to find that love is underneath. That holy water that God made us has become poisoned. If we are judged, ridiculed, or accused of being a closet fag then it should give us no worries because equality for all no matter race, gender, sexual orientation are issues that need to be supported by all. Once you understand that aside from the right to walk down the aisle other rights are being violated by denying gays and lesbian’s rights, such as the economic factors such as extra taxes that have to be paid, the denial of tax breaks, and the difficulty of homeownership that can occur due not allowing a union between to prosper. Even this is one of countless number of sins broken daily in the bible sometimes you just put your personal views aside and support for the betterment of society. Isn’t this reason Jesus died anyway, for the sins of his people?
Friday, March 29, 2013
Sunday, March 10, 2013
The Weakness in Strength
Since the 60’s leading into the 70’s black households have increasingly been headed by a woman. These women are now taking on the roles of heroes. As heads of these modern households they are wearing hats that they traditionally they shouldn’t fit; holding down a full-time job (sometimes with overtime), bearing the sole responsibility of raising boys to men and girls into women. Not only are these single mothers supposed to be nurturers, but also protectors. A lot of these households are producing daughters who are being put at disadvantage in life, mainly because many aren’t getting a male figure that shows that sensual love for them without expecting anything or much in return for them.
Now that we are in the 21st century a lot of these black women have grown up with the assumption that they have to play a superhero role in society where they have to show their strength all the time and not show any signs of vulnerabilities. Superheroes should only exist in comic books and in movies. By taking on this masculine role you are cheating yourself out of a life normalcy and complete happiness.
By taking on the superhero “I can do it on my own” persona you sacrifice taking care of your own needs. We as a black community have imprisoned many of our sisters into the roles instead of letting them be free to define who they truly can be instead of the traditional single mother of two who has to work 2-3 jobs to keep the lights on. Before we can even look at ways of fixing these roles that we have trapped a lot of these women we have to see those factors that have led to the hardened black feminine figure.
We must ask ourselves why she feels the need to be the strong and put on this mask of a strong heroic woman. Under that mask of strength, fearlessness, and confidence could be a woman that grew up fatherless, one that was raped, abused, or had to be the witness of a mother that abused physically or emotionally by a significant other. A lot of these issues that many women try to hide are usually the determent's factors of their character. Many of are sisters are covered in smiles that conceal broken hearts, fear of failure, and despair.
These strong sisters have to be commended for taking on these responsibility's and possessing superhero powers that most men would likely shy away from. What happens when those strengths become one of your faults and biggest weaknesses? The idea that you have to be strong can alter your pursuit towards a romantic relationship. Lately society has placed this stigma on black men that we are scared of a black woman when in reality it nearly impossible to deal with anyone is afraid of being vulnerable towards you to let you in their life. It’s very problematic and difficult to find woman that can appreciate you doing anything nice for them or showing interest in them with the belief that you have ulterior motives. Too many times black men and women can get along perfectly while we’re lying down, but the moment we are standing a lot of the conflicts of roles battling each other seem to become unbearable. The great power of being a strong black woman when most would expect you to be weak and fold leaves many in isolation. Something as simple as letting someone do something nice for you, pamper or support you can be difficult to submit to.
Even though single mothers have produced a good amount of college graduates, upstanding citizens, and progressed our communities while many were strung out on drugs, walked away, or populated the prison systems it seems that the “the strong black woman” has done more hurt to herself and left her own personal happiness unfilled.
Now that we are in the 21st century a lot of these black women have grown up with the assumption that they have to play a superhero role in society where they have to show their strength all the time and not show any signs of vulnerabilities. Superheroes should only exist in comic books and in movies. By taking on this masculine role you are cheating yourself out of a life normalcy and complete happiness.
By taking on the superhero “I can do it on my own” persona you sacrifice taking care of your own needs. We as a black community have imprisoned many of our sisters into the roles instead of letting them be free to define who they truly can be instead of the traditional single mother of two who has to work 2-3 jobs to keep the lights on. Before we can even look at ways of fixing these roles that we have trapped a lot of these women we have to see those factors that have led to the hardened black feminine figure.
We must ask ourselves why she feels the need to be the strong and put on this mask of a strong heroic woman. Under that mask of strength, fearlessness, and confidence could be a woman that grew up fatherless, one that was raped, abused, or had to be the witness of a mother that abused physically or emotionally by a significant other. A lot of these issues that many women try to hide are usually the determent's factors of their character. Many of are sisters are covered in smiles that conceal broken hearts, fear of failure, and despair.
These strong sisters have to be commended for taking on these responsibility's and possessing superhero powers that most men would likely shy away from. What happens when those strengths become one of your faults and biggest weaknesses? The idea that you have to be strong can alter your pursuit towards a romantic relationship. Lately society has placed this stigma on black men that we are scared of a black woman when in reality it nearly impossible to deal with anyone is afraid of being vulnerable towards you to let you in their life. It’s very problematic and difficult to find woman that can appreciate you doing anything nice for them or showing interest in them with the belief that you have ulterior motives. Too many times black men and women can get along perfectly while we’re lying down, but the moment we are standing a lot of the conflicts of roles battling each other seem to become unbearable. The great power of being a strong black woman when most would expect you to be weak and fold leaves many in isolation. Something as simple as letting someone do something nice for you, pamper or support you can be difficult to submit to.
Even though single mothers have produced a good amount of college graduates, upstanding citizens, and progressed our communities while many were strung out on drugs, walked away, or populated the prison systems it seems that the “the strong black woman” has done more hurt to herself and left her own personal happiness unfilled.
Saturday, March 9, 2013
10 Things that Irritate Me
1. It irritates me when I make plans to hang out with ppl and they announce it on social media beforehand. Doing that opens up the invitation for ppl to invite themselves.
2. I hate women that act fake bougie. They put on this sophisticated lifestyle when in actuality they just watch Love & Hip-Hop every Monday while drinking 5$ wine.
3. I hate when girls go natural, but get complacent with their hairstyles instead of being creative. I hate when they settle for that mini fro with a headband at the top.
4. I hate when ppl from a particular social movement die and their family is on the news asking for donations at a local bank, Instead of helping with funeral costs some of those "friends" are concerned about getting shirts made.
5. I'm not here to tell ppl what to do with their income tax money, but I hate when ppl use their refunds on trips to All-Star, Superbowl, CIAA, weekend etc, but their kids don't even have name brand cereal in the house.
6. I hate these "sneaker heads" that live at home and get every hyped release, but their mother has to work overtime just to keep the bills straight.
7. I hate when a girl lets you hit it to early before you can really have a grasp on whether you can build something with her. So while you're in it she has you go a lil deeper and she pulls you closer to get you that hug and kisses your neck, but you don't feel the connection. This results in a one an done and she's puts a negative stigma on you. *The streets know what I'm talking about*
8. First all I'm a product of a single parent household and I thank my mother for what she did, but how society is glamorizing it. Ppl always seem to use the "Barack Obama was a Product" argument, but fail to mention for every Barack their is 1,000 Tyshawns who didn't make it.
9. I hate that these "new niggas" is trying propagate to ppl that it's weak to show women that you love and appreciate them.
10. I hate that you probably don't follow me on twitter and/or Instagram @blove402
2. I hate women that act fake bougie. They put on this sophisticated lifestyle when in actuality they just watch Love & Hip-Hop every Monday while drinking 5$ wine.
3. I hate when girls go natural, but get complacent with their hairstyles instead of being creative. I hate when they settle for that mini fro with a headband at the top.
4. I hate when ppl from a particular social movement die and their family is on the news asking for donations at a local bank, Instead of helping with funeral costs some of those "friends" are concerned about getting shirts made.
5. I'm not here to tell ppl what to do with their income tax money, but I hate when ppl use their refunds on trips to All-Star, Superbowl, CIAA, weekend etc, but their kids don't even have name brand cereal in the house.
6. I hate these "sneaker heads" that live at home and get every hyped release, but their mother has to work overtime just to keep the bills straight.
7. I hate when a girl lets you hit it to early before you can really have a grasp on whether you can build something with her. So while you're in it she has you go a lil deeper and she pulls you closer to get you that hug and kisses your neck, but you don't feel the connection. This results in a one an done and she's puts a negative stigma on you. *The streets know what I'm talking about*
8. First all I'm a product of a single parent household and I thank my mother for what she did, but how society is glamorizing it. Ppl always seem to use the "Barack Obama was a Product" argument, but fail to mention for every Barack their is 1,000 Tyshawns who didn't make it.
9. I hate that these "new niggas" is trying propagate to ppl that it's weak to show women that you love and appreciate them.
10. I hate that you probably don't follow me on twitter and/or Instagram @blove402
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