Your Standards Can't Cost More Than You Can Offer

"I can't lie and say that she a gold digger, but like Ye' said she ain't fucking with broke niggas"

I'm all for the uplifting of my brotherhood, but some of yall have higher standards for women that'll you'll never have chance at then you do for yourself. This isn't directed at all, but mainly the men (I use the term loosely) who live in the diminutive bedroom with a double size bed and tube television down the hall or in the basement of their mothers house that they have no intentions of leaving.

You can spend your whole day tweeting requirements a woman must possess before you make any attempts at courting her such as; cooking, cleaning, looks, and income, but you can't even afford to fill up a 1/4 of a tank of gas in the car that she has to pick you up in. Sometimes you have to be real with yourself, you should only go after qualities and standards from a woman that you can reciprocate.

How can you can you expect a woman who has her shit together, keeps herself up, and is constantly progressing to settle for someone who can only offer the promise that he won't cheat, only because he knows that he can't afford to. A woman that expects a man to be able to provide doesn't mean she wants to take you for your loot, but she just looking for security that you can handle business like men are accustomed and suppose to do. Times can be hard for everyone, but when you get to the point of being comfortable in a stagnant position it's shows your lack of drive and dependency on others. Who really strives to be with the bum who's one big argument away from being kicked out of his mothers house. You can only take a few bs classes for so many years to get that refund check to stunt for a bunch of people you don't know for so long before that well runs dry.

But aye I refuse to tell a grown man how to live their life. If your comfortable living and dying in the same room you were raised in and going on half on a two for one coupon on dates from Applebee's with some chick with low self esteem be my guest. Just dont get on the Internet professing requirements for women you'll never date, and stop calling these women stuck up because they have mandatory minimums that you refuse to strive for.

I Don't Belong There

1. I don't belong in any apartment building that has 12 stories, no stairs, one single shack elevator, and a sign that reads, a police canine (K-9) will search the building periodically.

2. I don't belong in a bar where random dirty harlots are approaching you to rub the sweat off your back.

3. I don't belong on mocospace.com It's nothing but dirty fat back women with 2.0 megapixel flip phones.

4. Any place where it's more than 1 Chief Keef look-a-like is not my type of environment.

5. Any place that serves hot food out of building surrounded by steel bars with no drive thru, and you can't go inside.

6. I don't belong any place where it's a slew of people in durags with the cape out.

7. I don't belong in any area where Seagrams gin and girls with titty tats are present. They will implement bodily harm on any one in their path.

8. I don't belong in any barber shop where a debit card is accepted and that is open on Sundays & Mondays.

9. I don't belong in any household on Thanksgiving or Christmas that refers to dressing as stuffing.

10. I don't belong around any people who are easily satisfied.

I have been to these places by free will or force at least once. Please don't judge me.

She's A Good Look

"You need a real woman in your life...She's gonna help you build up your account...It take her just to compliment the deal"

Most men, myself included will spend so much time and effort trying to stunt on old women and hoes that frankly don't matter besides an answered phone call at 4am and neglect the one that's really worth it.

You can waste so many months dealing with someone and completely ignore the one that has everything you want, but more importantly everything that you need to succeed in life. It's not many out there, but we let the few sweep under the rug because we get so caught in the moment and stagnant in our current state that we don't see the possible upgrades our life can countenance, but a good woman can.

A good woman is the one who makes you put up those Jordan's and buy some Cole Haan's, takes your stunting money and shows you how to invest it in high yield interest saving accounts, stocks, and investments that will end up making money for you in the long run, and not end up skating out when your run is over. It's not many that you'll own a home with as opposed to go half on the rent with. Too many times we get caught up in the ones that come around when we're on top as opposed to that one who's their to help build us up when we fall down. Im not saying every good woman is a miracle worker like the select few that I've met, but it's some that can help polish you into getting into your "grown man" stage.

She's the type to introduced you to a nice casual dress shoe, good grown cologne (yes curve is for high schoolers), and the importance of a well groomed man in a fitted suit with a double Windsor knot. She makes sure your caesar is nice and crisp, or your locks are tight to perfection. She's the good woman that can adjust to any environment, but at the end of the day if needed she can let it be known that she wears a scarf at night (get it).

All & all forget all that, not really but most importantly a good woman is just that one that at the end of the day you can say, "it was worth it." She is the one who stuck with you and believed in you when you doubted yourself. Their aren't to many that will keep you polished, stroke your ego, and provide that extra confidence to progress in life and stunt together in the process.

10 Questions I Have For the President and 1st Lady

"It much bigger issues in the world I know, but I first wanted answers to the world I know"


1. President Obama I'm aware you're a beer drinker, but be real. Do you drink courvoisier, Hennessy, or Crown Royal?

2. Are you a 360 waves, sporting waves, or Murray's wave pomade kind of guy?

3. For the laying of the hair do you use a wave cap or durag? If a durag do you let the cape hang, put it in a pony tail, or do you roll it up?


4. You rep the Chi faithfully so I know you have fried chicken frequently. What kind of hot sauce do you put on your Harold's?

5. I'm aware you're a fan of Luda, Hov, Jeezy, and Al Green fan, but is Chief Keef on your iPod?

6. Michelle was type of scarf are you laying it down with?

7. Have you threatened Jan Brewer for disrespecting your husband yet, or are you waiting after the election?

8. What does your sprinkle of ratchettness consist of Mrs. Obama?

9. Do you get your hair done at a black salon, out of someone's basement, or a luxury salon?

10. Michelle are you apart of the "Keep twerk alive" movement?

Take a Seat And Chill

1. If you go out of town and visit a restaurant that isn't in the city you reside in please stop taking pictures of the receipts. Act like you've been somewhere.

2. Just because you've been to Miami, Dallas, and Long Beach on a buddy pass doesn't get you the right to act bougie like you're some global travel connoisseur. Stop bragging

3. Just because you decide to go natural doesn't give you the excuse to come out in public looking like The Weeknd. Keep that ish up!!

4. Chill with the "thirst" FB/TWITTER screenshots. If someone that is unattractive to you hits you up just simply un-follow or delete them on FB.

5. Stop complaining about the city you live in if you've never been out of your time zone.

6. Don't get so caught up in how good you think you may look by the company you choose to compare yourself with, when at the end of the day you're just a black jelly bean or the fat part of the meat everyone picks around.

7. Y'all have to chill uploading pictures of ultra sounds saying, "look at his face, he looks just like his daddy Garrison"

8. Chill talking down on people who work regular who have no plans of going to college or getting a trade. Remember college doesn't = 100,000 salary. They might end up doing better than you.

9. Stop wearing those Walmart cream colored bras as a main piece of your club attire. Matter fact don't do it no matter the brand. You look like a low budget BET uncut video extra anyway.

10. Not all woman with mini fro's, a titty tat, and that drinks seagrams are dangerous. Many are generally loving people who won't stab people or bust out windows. *note to self*

Cooperate Thugging

"My niggas love it when I talk like this, my cooperate people start bugging cuz I talk like this, them cooperate thugs be like naw B talk that shit"

Just one of those days were I'm sitting at work and I put on my upscale bougie front. You know the front I'm referring to? The one where you're the new token black guy and you just can't quite reveal the fact that you're "ghetto."

When you're new on the scene you get those "what high school did you attend, do you go to college," and my favorite the "what music do you listen to?" You can't let them know you listen to some gun toting, crack cooking, brick flipping, pimping hoes type music, at least not until you been there a few months, received a couple of raises, and got some sort of seniority. So instead you just tell them Michael Jackson because he's widely accepted among everyone. At the end of the day most minorities when they are actually the minority in a professional environment tend to feel like at all times they are given the social responsibility of representing their culture.

The pressure of not exhibiting that you're different, but changing the perception to others that your culture is different can be quite challenging. Your white co-working counterparts can act lewd,
infantile, and bounderish because at the end of the day they are not judge by their color, but merely as an individual. Being a designated representation of race in the workplace can be a gift & a curse.

Sometimes people gets to comfortable and the say offensive things that touches that nerve. You know of those people who are afraid to go the "hood" because they don't want to get shot. These are instances, were even though you might have the 360 waves or have your hair laid to perfection that you have to remind these co-workers that you put a bougie front on that you still wear a du-rag or a head scarf at night, and that you do have some lil Jon & and the eastside boyz on you iPod. So at any given moment "you could be about that life."

No matter what you can always keep a certain level of professionalism, but never throw the durag away!

Don't Put Your Future in a Fools Pants

"A hood rat will put her future in a fools pant until she realizes you can't buy furniture with food stamps"

Not defending dead beat, behind on child support, in and out of jail, unemployed, womanizing dependent males who plant seeds in women and refuse to raise them, but if you're a single female parent when do you place some blame on yourself?

This is like the 21st century, I'm not expecting you to know a man's life story before you lay down with him. Too many naive women treat their vagina like an general admission arena, instead of a selective entry lounge. Women need to learn that you should have high standards for the men you lay down with because if someone has bad habits now it's very unlikely you can altar them within 9 months.

Think to yourself; if us going out depends on a 2 for 1 coupon, what will life be like when a Huggies coupon doesn't come in Targets Sunday ad? Keep in mind that that whole "Wait till I Get My Money Right," excuse won't help when that Wic runs its course, the power/gas bill and rent is past due, the government has cut your medicaid and you can't sell any food stamps for .50 cents on the dollar to your FaceBook friend Margaret. Keep in mind that the "hood favorite" rap song that Brayshaun aka B-Money recorded in his mother's basement that's only heard in his neighborhood isn't going to take care of your child, I'm not saying turn into a gold digger, but understand the difference between a comfortable broke man, and someone who has and is keeping his shit together (no toilet paper).

Maybe it's just a "real negro," or maybe just me and the people I know, but I will never mess with a woman who doesn't know how to take care of herself and doesn't show history of being committed to something other than getting to the club before 10:30 so she can receive free admission. Women remember just because a man can afford something, doesn't mean he can afford the lifestyle that said item is associated with. It's easier to look rich, but impossible to fake wealth.

Don't be that woman after 3 kids by three different men, 45 pounds heavier, and a bunch of broken dreams later sitting at the bar drinking Seagrams gin looking down at your titty tattoo crying over what your life has become.

S/N shout out to all the woman who are single parents, but do that shit well. You are respected and excluded.

Is Welfare Hurting, or Helping?

Welfare, what comes to mind when you see, or hear this word, lazy individuals who milk off the system also known as Welfare Kings & Queens? Go to the comments sections of any blogs discussion the issue and you'll find harsher suggestions than the above listed.

I have always been a proponent of welfare, whether it's government issued, or of a private entity because I understand how tough it can be to escape generational lines of poverty. Lately I've noticed not all, but enough for tax payers who've never seen an EBT card, a section 8 apartment, housing project, a minimum check to place judgement.

Aside from governmental issued welfare, and some private entity's requiring levels of support for single mothers (a small portion of fathers) which in turn keeps the household without a father figure. Not only doesn't it break up the family unit, but it provides an incentive for people to be comfortable having the bare minimum and just getting by, which in turns keeps the poverty rate high. In a lot of cases the more children you have the greater the benefits.

Speaking of kids, what effects do you think it causes for children to see a parent milking off assistance and not attempting to better themselves? How will be able to learn how far hard work can get them if they see their parent getting by off a monthly check, subsidies, etc. This in most cases will raise sons to live off of other women and have daughters that fall into the trap of the comfort that welfare provides to some.

In addition to deterring adolescent progression it provides no incentive for a struggling parent to want to get off. With food basically paid for (you can also sale EBT for profit), car vouchers, subsidize income, and a monthly check, the incentive to have more kids for extra benefits is there, but the incentive to get off is extinct. I will never argue to let people fend for themselves because due to other underlining dynamics it can be difficult to provide, but like most systems rooms for improvements can always be implemented.

I'm only knowledgable really to my own city (since this is a blog and not an essay don't get angry lol) I'm aware that you either have to work X amount of hours or go to school to receive benefits. The school part is fine, but if a beneficial doesn't go that route I think they should be required to only be allowed a max of 18 months for assistance. This will put pressure for them to gain employment and work up to a level at their job where they can become stable to provide on their own. Putting time tables on how long someone can use the system will promote a more willing to work, excel in school, and practice safe sex to avoid unplanned children.

This is not an attack on those on welfare, but a simple concern on the affliction that welfare can place upon individuals who use it as an escape instead of a "pick me up." I personally would love to see everyone live comfortably and not just accepting getting by. Welfare is a good band aide for those struggling, but not a cure for those living in poverty.

Nobody Did It Like Meech, Nobody

"To be honest, because evidently they didnt like what I was doing, or what they thought I was doing. Thats how I look at it. Anytime youre Black and you got a little power, and youre trying to be successful and youve got money, just for some reason then here they come"

Blacks will not, refuse to, and are inept to stick together. Is this just a stereotype, or is it a truth that others accept, including us? Of course we can come together to party, tweet about award shows, and argue about who's the best MC Jay-Z, Weezy, or Nas, but what about coming together to build the straggling black economy?

Love, respect, and trust is hard to come by. Without it can you honestly say you can build something sustainable? Of course you've heard of Black Wall Street, but their was one organization in particular that exemplified how far love, respect, and trust can get you into creating a multimillion dollar empire. If you haven't guessed by now that was B.M.F.

I'm almost certain that majority of people think its absurd to channel Big Meech and B.M.F. as a way to unite the black community to achieve economical prosperity, but if you take the drug element out and universally substitute it with something else and you will be surprise how effective their formula can be.

Meech and company main goal was to get money, upgrade their life and economical condition of their loved ones. Contrary to what some Fox News watchers may believe no one wants to live and die poor, or raise terror among their community just for thrills. Everyone wants and deserves to have a chance living life to its maximum fulfillment. What Meech did was provide an opportunity to people who under most circumstances were trained to hate and despise one another. He had crips, bloods, Vl's, G's, etc working together to accomplish a common goal; making money and improving living conditions.

I'm certain that majority of blacks aren't gang members, but when it comes to unity why can't we ask "why can't it be."

Why can't blacks dominate the black hair, and hair care industry, for example? Why can't a group come together instead of allowing Asians to pimp us by selling products that our solely for our usage, instead of keeping those dollars circulating in the black community?

Again, we know essentially that Big Meech was a high level drug dealer, but when you dig deeper into you'll figure out that he used business type principles to build a cooperation operated type business that not only motivated workers, but provided incentives to excel beyond just "getting by." Like those black business owners in Tulsa, Oklahoma who set-up shops in area of northern Tulsa known as Black Wall Street. They showed what could happen and what the black dollar could amount to. Meech & Co. showed nationally what could become if blacks came together for common purpose and most feel what it did could never be match.

When you hear/see Free Meech, it's not the drug lord, or accused murderer (never convicted or went to trial), but the Meech business model that incorporated trust, love, and respect for a common goal. Condoning drugs that dissipates people's lives is never the way to go, but if you can substitute drugs with something legal and fulfilling to positivity within a community then the heavens are the limit. That black dollar can grow, and flip itself continuously throughout our hands countless times and help perform positivity growth if we all can just love, trust, and respect each other enough to come for that common goal.

FREE MEECH!!!