On September 17, 2011 “Occupy Wall Street” was born by the group Adbusters, a assembly of people based out of Canada who symbolize themselves as the 99% who aim to fight against the 1% of people who hold most of the worlds wealth. “According to a survey of Zuccotti Park protesters by the Baruch College School of Public Affairs published on October 19, of 1,619 web respondents, 1/3 were older than 35, half were employed full-time, 13% were unemployed and 13% earned over $75,000. 27.3% of the respondents called themselves Democrats, 2.4% called themselves Republicans, while the rest, 70%, called themselves independents,” but what about the forgotten ones. What about that lower social economical class who have been affected long before the middle class, the ones who are accustomed to working double and triples as means not to get on top, but just to survive, or what about those who “protest” in ways that are not in the conventional forms of marching and sit-ins?
When it gets to that point where middle class Americans across our nation are taking a stand, and lobbying against those “1 percenters” then America almost has to take a glance that the struggle that these people are facing, but who is there to sympathize with the forgotten.
Even though any race may fall in the low economical standing I want to focus on African American men and women, the people who resemble me, those whom I have hands on experience and eye witness accounts in dealing with this “Occupy Our Streets” matter.
Usually when it comes to women usually their options are few. Many have been placed in these economical standings because they have been born into them, or birth children that have placed them there. Sometimes working your way through college is not an option once you add up daycare costs that will become associated with a parent when they have to leave for these extended periods. One of the few options that these single women have is working 2-3 three low paying jobs, or jobs that require them to work odd hours that consist of doubles and triples, but at the end of the month once expenses are accounted for those many hours clocked in still don’t seem to add up to much. This is the only way that they have to protest against those “one percenters”, but to most it may not seem like a movement, but the only way they can compete for economical prosperity is to work crazy amount of hours at jobs that won’t pay much because of how easily they can be replaced by others who are in the same circumstances as them, or worst.
Men on the other hand have always protested in ways that weren’t fundamental to how the “Occupy Wall Street” are doing. A lot of men have pride issues that can be the motivational factor for you to do better for your family, or be the reason for its down fall. Pride can force a male to actually become a man and go out and work those 60 hours a week job to provide, or for a lot it seems like make him a coward and walk away. Then those all the others who only form of protest they know are to go out in their hoods, ghettos, and projects and start selling dope, robbing folks, hustling in whatever means that will provide for those babies, and/or wife/mother at home that’s depending on you to bring income back to the house to cover the rent, food, lights, and gas bills. Most people don’t grow up dreaming to become criminals. After adolescent years seeing people in their struggling communities performing confirming to these roles it almost acts as a social brain washing that tells that this is what your destined to be. Most men have too much pride to be your local burger flipping chef at McDonalds, or your express lane cashier at Wal-Mart. Also how many women are proud to claim that they are in relations with someone whose current career path is that of a McDonald’s employee or Wal-Mart lifer? Hold up….I’ll Wait. Growing up women too, but , men are always in competition with others to make money, have the flashiest car, be the best dressed, and smash the most “b*****s.” How do you tell an 18 year old that has grown up around poverty, but sees nothing but luxury living when he looks in magazines, the t.v., and local neighborhood superstars that he can get by on 7.25? You cant tell most because his pride won’t allow him to listen. No one man wants to be the guy that no woman chooses, or the one who is ridiculed because his sneakers from the clearance rack, or that feeling of self worthlessness because his pockets are touching. So he ends up “occupying his streets” by the only way he knows how. He doesn’t care whether you accept it, but he just wants understanding, but at the end of the day he doesn’t care if you understand it either.
In the words of Clifford Harris (T.I.),“before you going judging these people, loving them won’t because at the end of the day they’re just doing their job.” Even though its wrong at the end of the in terms of how it affects society, its has all moral standing when it comes to providing for their families. No one wants to be the mother of son that sold drug, and no child wants to have a mother that has to work 60-70 hours a week because they need that physical love, but what can you do when you are constantly teased with an American Dream in a nation that still looks at you as a second class citizen.
Tuesday, November 29, 2011
Wednesday, September 28, 2011
We Are More Than They Think We Are
WE ARE MORE THAN THEY THINK WE ARE!!!!
It was set in law that blacks were only 3/5th of an actual person. Sometimes I sit back and wonder do some of us still believe that.
I like to read articles from all spectrums, I like to see the way different races and ethnicitys perceive blacks as a collective whole. I've notice many racially biased articles and blogs have the tendency to use scientific racism. For ex. more blacks are incarcerated than in college, but if you use the traditional college age 18-25 you'll notice that is a lie. Also that all black mothers are welfare recipients, some writers use statistics to skew opinions, but fail to mention if welfare was completely cut off that more whites would suffer.
Many people fail to realize that stereotypes are just saturated strands of truths wrapped around ignorance. Even if society deems you as a second class citizen in a land that is supposedly for the free it should never deter your dreams, but serve as the gas to power them (I think Ye said something like that). We as black people should always keep in mind that we were kings before slaves, and our women were royalty before sex trophies, but I think since slavery was such a prominent tragedy in our history that we've failed to overcome it as a collective whole.
We've been given a glass ceiling of what we can achieve, ie. rappers, entertainers, drug dealers, athletes etc. Those careers are not attainable to the common person, except drug dealing, but giving someone little hope will just leave the common person comfortable in their situation. Even though our bodies were freed from slavery, our minds have stayed in those fields and in the big house.
Some of us have allowed institutionalized racism to put us in a state of economical mediocre obedience. Like many slaves 400 years ago that were afraid to escape to freedom, many of us are afraid to take risk that could take us to progressive lives. Instead some of us choose to become comfortable in regressive lives or, in a state of consistent struggle. We must keep in mind that we don't have to follow what our peers refuse to be, or what the people before us wouldn't be, instead we must focus on what we dream to be and work hard to make sure that is what we are.
I have the belief and faith that today, or tomorrow, but one day we will be respected, I'm not saying have racial prominence over the world, but looked at as equals to the world. We are more than what some expect us as a collective to be, but we will be what Martin, Malcolm, and black nationalist knows we are destined to be. We should always remember that their is plenty room at the top, its the bottom that's crowded.
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It was set in law that blacks were only 3/5th of an actual person. Sometimes I sit back and wonder do some of us still believe that.
I like to read articles from all spectrums, I like to see the way different races and ethnicitys perceive blacks as a collective whole. I've notice many racially biased articles and blogs have the tendency to use scientific racism. For ex. more blacks are incarcerated than in college, but if you use the traditional college age 18-25 you'll notice that is a lie. Also that all black mothers are welfare recipients, some writers use statistics to skew opinions, but fail to mention if welfare was completely cut off that more whites would suffer.
Many people fail to realize that stereotypes are just saturated strands of truths wrapped around ignorance. Even if society deems you as a second class citizen in a land that is supposedly for the free it should never deter your dreams, but serve as the gas to power them (I think Ye said something like that). We as black people should always keep in mind that we were kings before slaves, and our women were royalty before sex trophies, but I think since slavery was such a prominent tragedy in our history that we've failed to overcome it as a collective whole.
We've been given a glass ceiling of what we can achieve, ie. rappers, entertainers, drug dealers, athletes etc. Those careers are not attainable to the common person, except drug dealing, but giving someone little hope will just leave the common person comfortable in their situation. Even though our bodies were freed from slavery, our minds have stayed in those fields and in the big house.
Some of us have allowed institutionalized racism to put us in a state of economical mediocre obedience. Like many slaves 400 years ago that were afraid to escape to freedom, many of us are afraid to take risk that could take us to progressive lives. Instead some of us choose to become comfortable in regressive lives or, in a state of consistent struggle. We must keep in mind that we don't have to follow what our peers refuse to be, or what the people before us wouldn't be, instead we must focus on what we dream to be and work hard to make sure that is what we are.
I have the belief and faith that today, or tomorrow, but one day we will be respected, I'm not saying have racial prominence over the world, but looked at as equals to the world. We are more than what some expect us as a collective to be, but we will be what Martin, Malcolm, and black nationalist knows we are destined to be. We should always remember that their is plenty room at the top, its the bottom that's crowded.
Twitter @blove402
Facebook Brandon Lovelace
Sunday, September 25, 2011
We Must Do Better
1. We need to channel that same aggression we get when we feel we are getting oppressed by the white hierarchy to black on black crimes that affect our community. If we can't unite together how can we begin to fight for equality against other races.
2. Ladies need to trying to give relationship advice and motivational FB stats/tweets when they are half naked in their picture.
3. We need to support our black businesses in the community, not just the barber shop, beauty salon, and weedman.
4. We need to invest more energy in our children's education than their dress. If you're going to post a picture of how "fresh" they are please post a picture of the child's report card.
5. Ladies fishnet attire is not an outfit. It just makes you look like a hoe who wasn't hugged as a child.
6. "Stop trying to find relationships in places where ass grabbing is taken place" Ms. Parker
7. We need to stopping have children if it is difficult or we can barely afford to take care of the first. Children don't deserve to suffer if its preventable.
8. "We need to encourage our men to be Kings not niggers, and our girls to be queens rather than bad bitches" nova giovanni
9. We need to be teaching our young children math and science like they do in China, not Waka Flocka lyrics.
10. We as males need to stop leaving self sufficient woman that know what they want in life for arm candy, arm candy is only around when times are sweet.
11. Stop getting engaged to people AFTER they go to jail.
12. We need to stop idolizing rappers just because we like a song of theirs. What do you really know about them besides what they tell you.
13. We need to stop putting ALL our money in items that will depreciate. Put some away for a rainy day.
14. We need to learn the difference between "being a hood nigga and a nigga from the hood"
15. We need to surround ourselves with people that allow us to live up to our potential. Not those who want us to live down to their expectations.
Thank you for reading, feedback and opinions are always acceptable
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Brandon Lovelace Omaha, NE Facebook.
Bran.Lo@hotmail.com
2. Ladies need to trying to give relationship advice and motivational FB stats/tweets when they are half naked in their picture.
3. We need to support our black businesses in the community, not just the barber shop, beauty salon, and weedman.
4. We need to invest more energy in our children's education than their dress. If you're going to post a picture of how "fresh" they are please post a picture of the child's report card.
5. Ladies fishnet attire is not an outfit. It just makes you look like a hoe who wasn't hugged as a child.
6. "Stop trying to find relationships in places where ass grabbing is taken place" Ms. Parker
7. We need to stopping have children if it is difficult or we can barely afford to take care of the first. Children don't deserve to suffer if its preventable.
8. "We need to encourage our men to be Kings not niggers, and our girls to be queens rather than bad bitches" nova giovanni
9. We need to be teaching our young children math and science like they do in China, not Waka Flocka lyrics.
10. We as males need to stop leaving self sufficient woman that know what they want in life for arm candy, arm candy is only around when times are sweet.
11. Stop getting engaged to people AFTER they go to jail.
12. We need to stop idolizing rappers just because we like a song of theirs. What do you really know about them besides what they tell you.
13. We need to stop putting ALL our money in items that will depreciate. Put some away for a rainy day.
14. We need to learn the difference between "being a hood nigga and a nigga from the hood"
15. We need to surround ourselves with people that allow us to live up to our potential. Not those who want us to live down to their expectations.
Thank you for reading, feedback and opinions are always acceptable
@blove402 Twitter
Brandon Lovelace Omaha, NE Facebook.
Bran.Lo@hotmail.com
Saturday, August 6, 2011
Brenda is Still Having Babies and Maury is Still Making 7 Million.
Brenda is still having babies while Maury is currently receiving 7 million annually.
I've noticed that many of the guest on the Maury show are black. Of course other race and ethnic groups appear, but a large number look like me, and you. We can't blame producers of shows like this entirely for the very small fabrication that they have strategically decided to portray to the masses.
Majority of the blame has to be placed on us. Our papas are rolling stones, we are leaving sons to be the "man" of the house, our daughters are living in households that lack a male figure to tell and show them how much they love them on a daily basis. Also our young males and females have been embedded with this back against the wall, niggas/b*****s ain't shit, that we can only trust ourselves and that relationship will only end in heartbreak way of thinking.
It seems as though our community treats these problems like a bad car accident; we hate it, and are disgusted by it, but we still stand in the background and watch. We watch as 90% percent of black children are forced to grow up in a household where both biological parent aren't present. We continue to watch as some men (I use this term loosely) plant their seed in these women and leave that seed to grow without the fathers care. We continue to see women struggle raising children, but yet they continue to birth more. It seems that it is a continuous cycle that repeats generation after generation. I've seen with my grandmother, and my own mom. So maybe the question should be is; whether having a stable household something that's learned or biological?
At times I think its learned because I saw I tweet from a young lady that said, "maybe if my father was in my life I might have dated different types of men, or turned out a little differently." Maybe, or maybe its definite that fathers need to be the first male a girl loves, not the first guy that has her legs open. She needs to have that protector that feels she can run to and confide in, not that "thug" that she feels she loves, whom most likely will abuse emotional in a direct way unlike her father who abused her indirectly by not being present. Also how do sons learn to treat women when the man who is presented with that responsibility abandons them and forces them to learn from people who either do not know how to teach or do not have their best interest in mind, but fathers aren't entirely to blame.
Mothers also have parental responsibility to teach their sons to be better individuals. Whether its providing them with a positive male figure. It can be from a big brother program or an uncle who can help show them the ropes. Most of the things I personally know came from my uncles. Even though black mothers over time have been giving the title of "superwoman" due to them being forced to play both roles. Also when their sons mess up they can't use this as a time to tell the child that he is being a disappoint just like his father was. I remember countless times my mother would tell me anytime that I did something negative that it reminded her of my father. Also their daughters must know that good black men do exist, we all are not cheaters, liars, or do we abandon our children. Daughters must also know that having a man doesn't define their womanhood, and they should never compromise their sexuality, morals, or goals to satisfy a man's ego.
Even though this is simply my opinion it still raises the question of how do will turn around hundreds of years of broken families. Yes we do have black families that have broken the cycle, but we still have a long way to go. We still have to deal with the notions of playing with cards that we've been dealt or it being Mamas baby, Papas maybe. Ever since slavery black families were forced to be broken up, but slavery in physical form has been deceased, but mentally we still walk around in shackles. The question isn't when are we going to break these cycles, but how, and why do they still exist?
I've noticed that many of the guest on the Maury show are black. Of course other race and ethnic groups appear, but a large number look like me, and you. We can't blame producers of shows like this entirely for the very small fabrication that they have strategically decided to portray to the masses.
Majority of the blame has to be placed on us. Our papas are rolling stones, we are leaving sons to be the "man" of the house, our daughters are living in households that lack a male figure to tell and show them how much they love them on a daily basis. Also our young males and females have been embedded with this back against the wall, niggas/b*****s ain't shit, that we can only trust ourselves and that relationship will only end in heartbreak way of thinking.
It seems as though our community treats these problems like a bad car accident; we hate it, and are disgusted by it, but we still stand in the background and watch. We watch as 90% percent of black children are forced to grow up in a household where both biological parent aren't present. We continue to watch as some men (I use this term loosely) plant their seed in these women and leave that seed to grow without the fathers care. We continue to see women struggle raising children, but yet they continue to birth more. It seems that it is a continuous cycle that repeats generation after generation. I've seen with my grandmother, and my own mom. So maybe the question should be is; whether having a stable household something that's learned or biological?
At times I think its learned because I saw I tweet from a young lady that said, "maybe if my father was in my life I might have dated different types of men, or turned out a little differently." Maybe, or maybe its definite that fathers need to be the first male a girl loves, not the first guy that has her legs open. She needs to have that protector that feels she can run to and confide in, not that "thug" that she feels she loves, whom most likely will abuse emotional in a direct way unlike her father who abused her indirectly by not being present. Also how do sons learn to treat women when the man who is presented with that responsibility abandons them and forces them to learn from people who either do not know how to teach or do not have their best interest in mind, but fathers aren't entirely to blame.
Mothers also have parental responsibility to teach their sons to be better individuals. Whether its providing them with a positive male figure. It can be from a big brother program or an uncle who can help show them the ropes. Most of the things I personally know came from my uncles. Even though black mothers over time have been giving the title of "superwoman" due to them being forced to play both roles. Also when their sons mess up they can't use this as a time to tell the child that he is being a disappoint just like his father was. I remember countless times my mother would tell me anytime that I did something negative that it reminded her of my father. Also their daughters must know that good black men do exist, we all are not cheaters, liars, or do we abandon our children. Daughters must also know that having a man doesn't define their womanhood, and they should never compromise their sexuality, morals, or goals to satisfy a man's ego.
Even though this is simply my opinion it still raises the question of how do will turn around hundreds of years of broken families. Yes we do have black families that have broken the cycle, but we still have a long way to go. We still have to deal with the notions of playing with cards that we've been dealt or it being Mamas baby, Papas maybe. Ever since slavery black families were forced to be broken up, but slavery in physical form has been deceased, but mentally we still walk around in shackles. The question isn't when are we going to break these cycles, but how, and why do they still exist?
Wednesday, July 13, 2011
Sorry For the Lies
I've never took the opportunity or time to formally apologize for all the lies that I have told, or promises that I've broken towards GOD.
I am fully aware that GOD is all knowing, forgiving, and merciful. With he being all knowing I at times, more like at will take advantage of his love by making promises that I have no intentions of fulfilling. I make those promises to help me get out of a life jams. I may feel as though I'm fooling him, but in the end I look like the fool
I'm a firm advocate of not giving people second chances. I can at the drop of a dime can just off someone from my memory with no remorse, but for some reason after continous lie the lord always is there in my time of need.
It's a lot of folks who will swear up and down they will be in heaven, while their are others who can sit in the front rows each Sunday, but still may not go. I barely go to church, and I have done so much wrong in my 22 years that I fear where I'm going to go when my judgement day appears.
Everytime things are at the point where their is nothing I can do to mend the injuries that life has placed upon me your line is ringing from my calls, but when life seems that it can't get any better for me at that moment I'm never calling your line to tell you thank you.
At 3:05 am Wednesday, July 13, 2011 I'm finally realizing that I have been putting the wrong things in the forefront of my life while I place in the back burner, unless I'm in dire need. It seems as though I have all the time in the world to go on out of town trips, take women on dates, entertain women (who want nothing more of me than moments of my time), find different ways to mix ciroc, and a multitude of other things that I know you are aware. I know simply writing you a note doesn't do anything, but open up the possibly of another lie. Even though my actions some may feel I'm bullshitting, but I know down deep that you understand where my heart is and that I'm really trying to do right.
I am fully aware that GOD is all knowing, forgiving, and merciful. With he being all knowing I at times, more like at will take advantage of his love by making promises that I have no intentions of fulfilling. I make those promises to help me get out of a life jams. I may feel as though I'm fooling him, but in the end I look like the fool
I'm a firm advocate of not giving people second chances. I can at the drop of a dime can just off someone from my memory with no remorse, but for some reason after continous lie the lord always is there in my time of need.
It's a lot of folks who will swear up and down they will be in heaven, while their are others who can sit in the front rows each Sunday, but still may not go. I barely go to church, and I have done so much wrong in my 22 years that I fear where I'm going to go when my judgement day appears.
Everytime things are at the point where their is nothing I can do to mend the injuries that life has placed upon me your line is ringing from my calls, but when life seems that it can't get any better for me at that moment I'm never calling your line to tell you thank you.
At 3:05 am Wednesday, July 13, 2011 I'm finally realizing that I have been putting the wrong things in the forefront of my life while I place in the back burner, unless I'm in dire need. It seems as though I have all the time in the world to go on out of town trips, take women on dates, entertain women (who want nothing more of me than moments of my time), find different ways to mix ciroc, and a multitude of other things that I know you are aware. I know simply writing you a note doesn't do anything, but open up the possibly of another lie. Even though my actions some may feel I'm bullshitting, but I know down deep that you understand where my heart is and that I'm really trying to do right.
Tuesday, June 28, 2011
10 Reasons Why She Might be a Hoe
Let's talk about hoes. I have 10 red flags that may be causes for concern when dealing with women. Some girls may have committed one of these offenses and may not be hoes, but you should decipher that for yourself. If a woman has been guilty a multiple offenses you need to leave her on the corner where you found her.
1. If she recently has had a baby, but is sexing someone other than the father six weeks after the delivery I'm sure that's a sign.
2. A flag should be thrown if a woman says that more women should suck their man's dick, before he cheats and has another women do it. First of all those are words from a hoe that will try to bait your mate, and also a girl who is lost.
3. If at anytime she has quoted this on a status or tweet you should be concerned "You may be where he's at but I'm where he wanna be"
4. If she complains that its unfair that males can sex a multitude of women and society deems it okay, but if a woman does it she's a hoe. She is just looking for an excuse to fuck, harry, Barry, Larry, Joshua, miguel, Christopher, Antoine, John, William, Kevin, Rufus, and Todd.
5 Any girl who doesn't hang around females, or claims not to has to have some hoe in her, their is no other reason why she only hangs around males.
6. If she blames alcohol for her promiscuity then shes a hoe, and a liar. A drunken mind speaks no lies, or sexes individuals without intent.
7. If she has claimed to be in love more than 3 times in a 12 month period, I normally would call her a love prostitute. For the sake of this blog she's a love hoe.
8. If you have ever caught in the club begging for drinks while dry humping on a nigga to "Sponser" by Teari Mari then that should be a sign to you.
9. If her friends are certified hoes, she is also, or she will be soon. Birds of a feather flock together.
10. If she has spent the whole time trying to convince herself that I do not know what I am talking about, and GOD knows her heart truth be told he knows, I know, and she knows that she's a hoe.
I am sorry for the ignorance you may have read, but I hope you understood the message.
1. If she recently has had a baby, but is sexing someone other than the father six weeks after the delivery I'm sure that's a sign.
2. A flag should be thrown if a woman says that more women should suck their man's dick, before he cheats and has another women do it. First of all those are words from a hoe that will try to bait your mate, and also a girl who is lost.
3. If at anytime she has quoted this on a status or tweet you should be concerned "You may be where he's at but I'm where he wanna be"
4. If she complains that its unfair that males can sex a multitude of women and society deems it okay, but if a woman does it she's a hoe. She is just looking for an excuse to fuck, harry, Barry, Larry, Joshua, miguel, Christopher, Antoine, John, William, Kevin, Rufus, and Todd.
5 Any girl who doesn't hang around females, or claims not to has to have some hoe in her, their is no other reason why she only hangs around males.
6. If she blames alcohol for her promiscuity then shes a hoe, and a liar. A drunken mind speaks no lies, or sexes individuals without intent.
7. If she has claimed to be in love more than 3 times in a 12 month period, I normally would call her a love prostitute. For the sake of this blog she's a love hoe.
8. If you have ever caught in the club begging for drinks while dry humping on a nigga to "Sponser" by Teari Mari then that should be a sign to you.
9. If her friends are certified hoes, she is also, or she will be soon. Birds of a feather flock together.
10. If she has spent the whole time trying to convince herself that I do not know what I am talking about, and GOD knows her heart truth be told he knows, I know, and she knows that she's a hoe.
I am sorry for the ignorance you may have read, but I hope you understood the message.
Sunday, June 26, 2011
"Are You a Down Ass Chick or Just a Dumbass"
You are meant to be a recipient or giver of love, not a slave to love or a master of it.
Even though love has no boundaries, and doesn't discriminate against humans, or animals, men or women, black or white, straight people, or gays I would like to focus on "down ass chicks." It seems in my opinion that a lot of young minded ladies are getting the term misinterpreted with "dumb ass."
Many situations that I hear about, but mainly see, are the "down ass chick" that has usually found herself giving her all to a man that has decided to live a life that keeps one foot in a cell, and one foot ahead of the law or just his ass on the couch. Also other situations where the man (I use this term loosely) I has the no motivation to do anything that will promote progression, stability, and happiness for the relationship.
Over the weeks, months, and years that have gone past the down ass chick role that you been accustomed to believe that you occupy. After countless time of you working 1-2 jobs, going to school, and for some raising a child you have an epiphany that you aren't being a down ass chick by staying by this man's side, you have become an adult babysitter, a caregivers and worst of all a dumbass. Unless a man is severely handicapped, under the age of 18, or taking active steps to do something actively proactive to progress in the building of the relationship he should not be taken care for extended periods of time. A male trying to break in the entertainment industry does have merits, for example if you don't see any progression with his craft or money coming in then you might be considered a dumb ass for staying by someone with a dream that has no future into becoming a reality. Also if the man is going to school that can be okay unless you start to notice that he isn't learning anything, but learning that he doesn't need to attend, but just stay enrolled so he can live off you. However their is hope for down ass chicks, not all are dumbasses some actually do it the correct way.
Michelle Obama had a career working for a university in Chicago where she pulled in a consistent 6 figure income with room for improvement. Her husband Barack was just a man out of law school who had aspirations of helping the people of Chicago directly by being a community organizer. We don't need to go to in-depth in his their story, but ladies just note she gave up her career because believed in her man's dream. Not because it was just a dream, but because she saw the enthusiasm, dedication, hard work, and effort he put forth into helping people. Not only did he provide stability, progression, and happiness for his family he provided his wife a platform to promote healthy living to millions of youth across the USA and possibly the globe.
When you feel the need to sacrifice your self worth and happiness to cater to someone who's only highlight of the day is completing the next level on Call of Duty you need to look in the mirror and ask whether or not being a dumbass is worth the life that you have. Would you rather smile or be what something that makes you cry at those times where it seems that pressure is unbearable. At the end of the day you have to decide whether you want to keep pretending to be a down ass chick or just walk away from this dumb ass situation.
Even though love has no boundaries, and doesn't discriminate against humans, or animals, men or women, black or white, straight people, or gays I would like to focus on "down ass chicks." It seems in my opinion that a lot of young minded ladies are getting the term misinterpreted with "dumb ass."
Many situations that I hear about, but mainly see, are the "down ass chick" that has usually found herself giving her all to a man that has decided to live a life that keeps one foot in a cell, and one foot ahead of the law or just his ass on the couch. Also other situations where the man (I use this term loosely) I has the no motivation to do anything that will promote progression, stability, and happiness for the relationship.
Over the weeks, months, and years that have gone past the down ass chick role that you been accustomed to believe that you occupy. After countless time of you working 1-2 jobs, going to school, and for some raising a child you have an epiphany that you aren't being a down ass chick by staying by this man's side, you have become an adult babysitter, a caregivers and worst of all a dumbass. Unless a man is severely handicapped, under the age of 18, or taking active steps to do something actively proactive to progress in the building of the relationship he should not be taken care for extended periods of time. A male trying to break in the entertainment industry does have merits, for example if you don't see any progression with his craft or money coming in then you might be considered a dumb ass for staying by someone with a dream that has no future into becoming a reality. Also if the man is going to school that can be okay unless you start to notice that he isn't learning anything, but learning that he doesn't need to attend, but just stay enrolled so he can live off you. However their is hope for down ass chicks, not all are dumbasses some actually do it the correct way.
Michelle Obama had a career working for a university in Chicago where she pulled in a consistent 6 figure income with room for improvement. Her husband Barack was just a man out of law school who had aspirations of helping the people of Chicago directly by being a community organizer. We don't need to go to in-depth in his their story, but ladies just note she gave up her career because believed in her man's dream. Not because it was just a dream, but because she saw the enthusiasm, dedication, hard work, and effort he put forth into helping people. Not only did he provide stability, progression, and happiness for his family he provided his wife a platform to promote healthy living to millions of youth across the USA and possibly the globe.
When you feel the need to sacrifice your self worth and happiness to cater to someone who's only highlight of the day is completing the next level on Call of Duty you need to look in the mirror and ask whether or not being a dumbass is worth the life that you have. Would you rather smile or be what something that makes you cry at those times where it seems that pressure is unbearable. At the end of the day you have to decide whether you want to keep pretending to be a down ass chick or just walk away from this dumb ass situation.
Wednesday, June 8, 2011
I Want Answers Part 2
1. Why do girls paint a man's name on their fingernails. Does it serve the same purpose as wedding ring, which is to show that you are taken?
2. Why do males claim to be CEO, Executives, Presidents, etc of cliques that they don't have business licenses to, hell these niggaz don't even own the name?
3. Why are you at age 25 still bragging about having your own place, car, and job. At 20 it was cool, but your a "grown ass person" its expected?
4. Why are you ladies calling your boyfriend "daddy" you're not his kid?
5. Why are you still putting hood tags on your boyfriends name? Ex 3boo7
6. If you don't have a job why are you excited about the weekend? I get it, you want to see people who are working during your scrub hours.
7. Why do you have millionaire dreams, but minimum wage work ethic?
8. Why do you brag about being wifey, and talk down on his sidelines? You basically admit that you're comfortable being cheated on as long as you're the one he cuddles with and takes to Golden Corral. *inspired by A.Y.F.*
9. Why are you putting thousands of dollars into a car that doesn't come with an extended warranty, plus its your main vehicle?
10. Why are you still calling yourself a 'bad b***h,' are pretty sophisticated women played out?
11. Why you calling your self a 'real b***h' when your Gucci fit came from China, your hair is from Lee's, and your ass is courtesy of booty pads?
12. Why you are making political statements, when your're not even political informed? You end up sounding like a dumb ass.
13. Why do you keep your kid in 50 dollar toddler jordans, but can't keep him in fresh diapers?
14. Why do born again virgins think going to church erased their hoeish past? Niggaz still remember and GOD still knows.
15. Why haven't you learn the social network rule yet, '@ em, or dap em'?
16. Why are you attending college night when you have never attended college? Shit you never really attended high school regularly.
17. Why are we afraid to tell our 'bros' we love em until they die or are sent upstate?
18. Why do we talk down on welfare recipients? Don't look down unless you are lending a hand to lift them up.
19. If you know your friend doesn't take care of their responsibilities why aren't you checking him/her? No matter the situation they might hate you now, but will respect you later.
20. Since we all can't be hood niggaz why you still trying? It's okay to not give negative stereotypes definition, being black and knowledgeable is good. The Malcolm X movement did more good than the Tookie Williams movement. Believe that.
Remember sometimes I sprinkle ignorance on the intellect. Everybody needs salt on the salad, but some of yall are going to die due to high blood pressure. Follow me on Twitter blove402 or Facebook Brandon Lovelace
2. Why do males claim to be CEO, Executives, Presidents, etc of cliques that they don't have business licenses to, hell these niggaz don't even own the name?
3. Why are you at age 25 still bragging about having your own place, car, and job. At 20 it was cool, but your a "grown ass person" its expected?
4. Why are you ladies calling your boyfriend "daddy" you're not his kid?
5. Why are you still putting hood tags on your boyfriends name? Ex 3boo7
6. If you don't have a job why are you excited about the weekend? I get it, you want to see people who are working during your scrub hours.
7. Why do you have millionaire dreams, but minimum wage work ethic?
8. Why do you brag about being wifey, and talk down on his sidelines? You basically admit that you're comfortable being cheated on as long as you're the one he cuddles with and takes to Golden Corral. *inspired by A.Y.F.*
9. Why are you putting thousands of dollars into a car that doesn't come with an extended warranty, plus its your main vehicle?
10. Why are you still calling yourself a 'bad b***h,' are pretty sophisticated women played out?
11. Why you calling your self a 'real b***h' when your Gucci fit came from China, your hair is from Lee's, and your ass is courtesy of booty pads?
12. Why you are making political statements, when your're not even political informed? You end up sounding like a dumb ass.
13. Why do you keep your kid in 50 dollar toddler jordans, but can't keep him in fresh diapers?
14. Why do born again virgins think going to church erased their hoeish past? Niggaz still remember and GOD still knows.
15. Why haven't you learn the social network rule yet, '@ em, or dap em'?
16. Why are you attending college night when you have never attended college? Shit you never really attended high school regularly.
17. Why are we afraid to tell our 'bros' we love em until they die or are sent upstate?
18. Why do we talk down on welfare recipients? Don't look down unless you are lending a hand to lift them up.
19. If you know your friend doesn't take care of their responsibilities why aren't you checking him/her? No matter the situation they might hate you now, but will respect you later.
20. Since we all can't be hood niggaz why you still trying? It's okay to not give negative stereotypes definition, being black and knowledgeable is good. The Malcolm X movement did more good than the Tookie Williams movement. Believe that.
Remember sometimes I sprinkle ignorance on the intellect. Everybody needs salt on the salad, but some of yall are going to die due to high blood pressure. Follow me on Twitter blove402 or Facebook Brandon Lovelace
Tuesday, June 7, 2011
Ten Things I Need Out of Ny Potential Queen.
I don't ask for much in a woman, I just demand someone who isn't content. I need someone who's always looking to progress in life. A strong woman's life is never complete, at least in ny opinion. I always strive to do my best in life my queen has to also, because queens don't trail they stay on the side of their King.
1. I like women with either a full time job, and/or in college. Every woman deserves to be spoiled, but I am not taken care of you if we aren't married.
2. Progress my lifestyle in positive ways. Ex. Motivate a brother to live healthy and do good deeds.
3. You have to have enough sense to understand what should go on social networking sites.
4. I need you to be comfortable with a man doing something nice for you. I understand your independent, but depend on me to pay for you sometimes.
5. You have to put your more value in your mind rather than your p***y.
6. You can't be a regular at the club 3 days a week. It's okay to sit back and chill.
7. You can be anything but average. Have something that most lack. I need those intangibles.
8. Demand of me what you expect of yourself.
9. I have to be able to feel comfortable telling you my aspirations, fears, and dreams.
10. The attraction I have for your outer appearance must match your internal.
1. I like women with either a full time job, and/or in college. Every woman deserves to be spoiled, but I am not taken care of you if we aren't married.
2. Progress my lifestyle in positive ways. Ex. Motivate a brother to live healthy and do good deeds.
3. You have to have enough sense to understand what should go on social networking sites.
4. I need you to be comfortable with a man doing something nice for you. I understand your independent, but depend on me to pay for you sometimes.
5. You have to put your more value in your mind rather than your p***y.
6. You can't be a regular at the club 3 days a week. It's okay to sit back and chill.
7. You can be anything but average. Have something that most lack. I need those intangibles.
8. Demand of me what you expect of yourself.
9. I have to be able to feel comfortable telling you my aspirations, fears, and dreams.
10. The attraction I have for your outer appearance must match your internal.
Tuesday, May 31, 2011
20 Useful Social Network Tips
1. Don't take a picture of you looking sad and accompany it with a caption like "I have to smile to keep from crying"
2. Don't take a picture basically promoting yourself as a sexual commodity then complain when horny can't get no vagina males are hitting your inbox looking to indulge in your juices due to their "thirst"
3. Fellas, if you decide to be disrespectful to women at least keep it consistent. She can't be a b***h Monday, but asked to be a woman Tuesday.
4. If you are doing things were a morning after pill was needed, please do not fill my timeline with Bible quotes right after.
5. Ladies stop taking model pose flicks in your bathroom mirror with your 2.0 megapixel camera. You look dumb as hell.
6. You have every right to tweet or post a status every 5 minutes, but I shouldn't know how your whole day went. I don't need to know you had captain crunch for breakfast, the bus driver made you late for work, your ex is blowing up your phone for the nookie, the fat b***h next to you bumped you, your boss talked about your attire, some fat h*e from high school mugged you in traffic, you had BK for dinner, and you went to sleep reading a zane book.
7. If you are sharing the same problem everyday and you still are depressed evidently the internet isn't the therapy you need. Please look into professional help.
8. Fellas stop trying to PIMP VIA the internet, you look like those perverts on "how to catch a predator"
9. If you have enough time to "beef" on the internet please get a job and if you have one get another one because you have to much time on your hand.
10. Just because someone's FB chat is open that does not give you an open invitation to hit them up daily about a whole bunch of nothing.
11. Liking every status or photo someone puts up doesn't make them notice you, it might make them scared of you.
12. Stop using the same "thinkexist.com" quotes on FB/twitter its getting old.
13. Stop making recycled status updates. I know no idea is original, but yall remix stats are just plain dull.
14. I'm not the best when it comes to spelling, but stop posting shit like this "dhis, dhat, phuuck," etc.
15. Before you post a pic clean all bathrooms, bedrooms, and kitchens you nasty, filthy people.
16. Stop posting common sense relationship advice. Ex. "If he didn't raise her kids, then he won't raise yours once he leaves" or my favorite "if you keep allowing him to cheat he's going to keep doing it, its like if you do a crime and you don't get arrested you will keep repeating that crime. DUH.
17. Fellas stop crying over these women daily. In these words of James Boyd "Go do some push-ups"
18. "Live your internet life by half of the advice that you give other people" Nova Giovanni
19. Leave your baby mother and baby father issues between you and you and your baby father/mother
20. At the end of the day remember that when it comes to social network sites for people who don't get paid off this shit....IT'S ONLY ENTERTAINMENT.
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2. Don't take a picture basically promoting yourself as a sexual commodity then complain when horny can't get no vagina males are hitting your inbox looking to indulge in your juices due to their "thirst"
3. Fellas, if you decide to be disrespectful to women at least keep it consistent. She can't be a b***h Monday, but asked to be a woman Tuesday.
4. If you are doing things were a morning after pill was needed, please do not fill my timeline with Bible quotes right after.
5. Ladies stop taking model pose flicks in your bathroom mirror with your 2.0 megapixel camera. You look dumb as hell.
6. You have every right to tweet or post a status every 5 minutes, but I shouldn't know how your whole day went. I don't need to know you had captain crunch for breakfast, the bus driver made you late for work, your ex is blowing up your phone for the nookie, the fat b***h next to you bumped you, your boss talked about your attire, some fat h*e from high school mugged you in traffic, you had BK for dinner, and you went to sleep reading a zane book.
7. If you are sharing the same problem everyday and you still are depressed evidently the internet isn't the therapy you need. Please look into professional help.
8. Fellas stop trying to PIMP VIA the internet, you look like those perverts on "how to catch a predator"
9. If you have enough time to "beef" on the internet please get a job and if you have one get another one because you have to much time on your hand.
10. Just because someone's FB chat is open that does not give you an open invitation to hit them up daily about a whole bunch of nothing.
11. Liking every status or photo someone puts up doesn't make them notice you, it might make them scared of you.
12. Stop using the same "thinkexist.com" quotes on FB/twitter its getting old.
13. Stop making recycled status updates. I know no idea is original, but yall remix stats are just plain dull.
14. I'm not the best when it comes to spelling, but stop posting shit like this "dhis, dhat, phuuck," etc.
15. Before you post a pic clean all bathrooms, bedrooms, and kitchens you nasty, filthy people.
16. Stop posting common sense relationship advice. Ex. "If he didn't raise her kids, then he won't raise yours once he leaves" or my favorite "if you keep allowing him to cheat he's going to keep doing it, its like if you do a crime and you don't get arrested you will keep repeating that crime. DUH.
17. Fellas stop crying over these women daily. In these words of James Boyd "Go do some push-ups"
18. "Live your internet life by half of the advice that you give other people" Nova Giovanni
19. Leave your baby mother and baby father issues between you and you and your baby father/mother
20. At the end of the day remember that when it comes to social network sites for people who don't get paid off this shit....IT'S ONLY ENTERTAINMENT.
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Sunday, May 29, 2011
20 Questions I would like answers to.
1. Why do some women want a "real nigga" what is that? My morals probably differ from the next. So what is really "real?"
2. How can a man call a female a BITCH, but expect her to act like a woman? That's like giving fish the exceptations of flying freely on their own.
3. How can you be grown, but your not paying grown bills? Cell phones don't count. I've been doing that since 16. Rent, ppls, mud, cox, etc are grown bills.
4. Why do some fathers decide they only need to show up when its time to take pictures ex. gradations, birthdays, and holidays? It confuses the child, trust me I'm there right now.
5. Why do some "real" niggaz and ladies say "free (whomever)," but haven't been to one visit, or put a single dollar on their books?
6. Who told some of these young black children in poverty stricken areas that "hustling," sports and entertainment fields was the only way they can make it out?
7. Why do some women participate in club contest that exploit them sexually for a few hundred bucks? Why can't you read a book and earn a scholarship for a few hundred bucks?
8. Why do you want to be a gangster? Isn't it easier to put away a criminal, than a leader who motives the weak to be stronger in the community?
9. Why do you tell the internet all your business? Most people who hit that *like* button don't care? Talk to your friends, that's what their here for.
10. Why are you at the club every weekend? Is your life that simple?
11. Why do you brag about doing expected shit? Ex. Having a job, finishing high school, taking care of YOUR kids.
12. Why are we knocking young un-wed mothers with children? We don't know their story. If being under 25 with kids is your biggest accomplishment KYS.
13. Why are you calling him a deadbeat? You have multiple kids by him, your still sexing him, and he didn't have money when you met him.
14. Why are you flooding my tl/newsfeed with how you are done with your cheating boyfriend on a weekly basis? Just put up with it, stay off the internet, or just Stfu.
15. Why are you unemployed but dropping your girl off to work in HER car?
16. How can you call yourself a man if your living a woman that not your mother, and your an adult?
17. Why are you constantly talking about how you want a man? You're out looking for some man to make your life worth it. Instead the whole time you should have been trying to find the love inside of you that motivated you to make your life worth living.
18. Why are you more concerned about what someone can do for you, instead of with you?
19. Why are you judging others by what they don't have? Why are you that shallow?
20. Why are you offended by what you read? Did your feelings get touched? This is just what I see. If you're upset just @ me on Twitter at @blove402 or Facebook me at Brandon Lovelace. Peace be with you.
2. How can a man call a female a BITCH, but expect her to act like a woman? That's like giving fish the exceptations of flying freely on their own.
3. How can you be grown, but your not paying grown bills? Cell phones don't count. I've been doing that since 16. Rent, ppls, mud, cox, etc are grown bills.
4. Why do some fathers decide they only need to show up when its time to take pictures ex. gradations, birthdays, and holidays? It confuses the child, trust me I'm there right now.
5. Why do some "real" niggaz and ladies say "free (whomever)," but haven't been to one visit, or put a single dollar on their books?
6. Who told some of these young black children in poverty stricken areas that "hustling," sports and entertainment fields was the only way they can make it out?
7. Why do some women participate in club contest that exploit them sexually for a few hundred bucks? Why can't you read a book and earn a scholarship for a few hundred bucks?
8. Why do you want to be a gangster? Isn't it easier to put away a criminal, than a leader who motives the weak to be stronger in the community?
9. Why do you tell the internet all your business? Most people who hit that *like* button don't care? Talk to your friends, that's what their here for.
10. Why are you at the club every weekend? Is your life that simple?
11. Why do you brag about doing expected shit? Ex. Having a job, finishing high school, taking care of YOUR kids.
12. Why are we knocking young un-wed mothers with children? We don't know their story. If being under 25 with kids is your biggest accomplishment KYS.
13. Why are you calling him a deadbeat? You have multiple kids by him, your still sexing him, and he didn't have money when you met him.
14. Why are you flooding my tl/newsfeed with how you are done with your cheating boyfriend on a weekly basis? Just put up with it, stay off the internet, or just Stfu.
15. Why are you unemployed but dropping your girl off to work in HER car?
16. How can you call yourself a man if your living a woman that not your mother, and your an adult?
17. Why are you constantly talking about how you want a man? You're out looking for some man to make your life worth it. Instead the whole time you should have been trying to find the love inside of you that motivated you to make your life worth living.
18. Why are you more concerned about what someone can do for you, instead of with you?
19. Why are you judging others by what they don't have? Why are you that shallow?
20. Why are you offended by what you read? Did your feelings get touched? This is just what I see. If you're upset just @ me on Twitter at @blove402 or Facebook me at Brandon Lovelace. Peace be with you.
Wednesday, May 25, 2011
Dear Young "Real Nigga"
Dear young "real nigga"
I see you "thugging" now. I however remember when you wore light up cartoon shoes, but I guess you had to grow up.
When I look at you, at age 16, I see a spitting image of me. We are both from the hood, but at this point we are still not from the hood. Due to the circumstances of us being at the poverty line, having a single mother, and having no direction where we want our life to begin, let alone end, society has given us stereotypical right to be criminals; absent fathers, single black mothers, and many circumstances that trouble our environments.
Being a teenager that has no idea what he wants to do in life, but is surrounded by people either dying or going to jail is the welcome gate to hell. I understand blacks are always in competition with each other about something, no ones wants to be "dusty." I can't lie 5.25 (minimum wage was 5.15 when I was 17) couldn't put Jordans on my feet. I don't want you to be a man who sells his soul or compromises what is right over a pair of sneakers. Their was a point in my reality where I thought either you did drugs or sold them.
My uncles told me about a time where the hood was just financially poor, but now our mental mind frames are in poor states. I'm not hear to force you to be something, I just want you to understand that your options do include gang banging and/or drug dealing, I just don't want you to be ignorant to the fact that college is an option, trade school, hell even an average job is possible. I understand "hoes" come when your chasing dollars. These other "real niggaz" are only selling you a dream, yea they are sexing many chicks, but do you honestly think they settle down. No, like one of my uncles, they grow to be men with matching shirt/short fits, a backwards hat talking about what they used to do and the hoes they used to screw. You should want more than that. Find someone you can marry. If you feel having a slew of hoes promotes masculinity then you are just another male that's plain clueless. As a man you will know that pussy is pussy, and you should never fall in love with it, but fall in love with the intangibles that she possesses. How much pussy you obtained doesn't make you real, being real comes from your mind frame.
Being real means consistently standing up for what you believe in, instead of what's popular. Being a criminal just gives police a reason to arrest you, and judges merit to sentence you. But being a man who stands up for what his right but using intellect and intelligence makes you dangerous to the opposition. Not only are you bringing attention to issues, but you are probably motivating others to open their blind eyes to see what's really going on.
You need to realize our people, I'm talking before the transatlantic slave trade were kings and queens and we were raped of our heritage and force to to conform to what whites wanted. Our men were beaten, and forced to work miserable lives. If you won't do it for yourself st least do it for those men whose freedom was suspended, because that slave blood is running through you. You owe to those ancestors to make something your self than just another number in a prison or another dead man that a preacher has to lie about at a funeral.
I'm not preaching to you like I'm a saint because it took me to the age of 20 before I knew better, but its my moral obligation to motivate you to do better because besides the money, women, attention thugging isn't you, "you know you don't want to be involved With the underworld dealers, carriers and mac-miller's
East-coast bodiers, west-coast cap peelers
Little monkey niggas turn gorilla's"
So how about you calm down, yea you'll lose a lot of women, the quantity will fall, but the quality will make up for it. Money won't come as quickly, but the efficiency it comes in will make up for it. Most important the respect you will receive will last for generations. Remember it's cool to be smart because at the end of the day thugs don't retire well.
I see you "thugging" now. I however remember when you wore light up cartoon shoes, but I guess you had to grow up.
When I look at you, at age 16, I see a spitting image of me. We are both from the hood, but at this point we are still not from the hood. Due to the circumstances of us being at the poverty line, having a single mother, and having no direction where we want our life to begin, let alone end, society has given us stereotypical right to be criminals; absent fathers, single black mothers, and many circumstances that trouble our environments.
Being a teenager that has no idea what he wants to do in life, but is surrounded by people either dying or going to jail is the welcome gate to hell. I understand blacks are always in competition with each other about something, no ones wants to be "dusty." I can't lie 5.25 (minimum wage was 5.15 when I was 17) couldn't put Jordans on my feet. I don't want you to be a man who sells his soul or compromises what is right over a pair of sneakers. Their was a point in my reality where I thought either you did drugs or sold them.
My uncles told me about a time where the hood was just financially poor, but now our mental mind frames are in poor states. I'm not hear to force you to be something, I just want you to understand that your options do include gang banging and/or drug dealing, I just don't want you to be ignorant to the fact that college is an option, trade school, hell even an average job is possible. I understand "hoes" come when your chasing dollars. These other "real niggaz" are only selling you a dream, yea they are sexing many chicks, but do you honestly think they settle down. No, like one of my uncles, they grow to be men with matching shirt/short fits, a backwards hat talking about what they used to do and the hoes they used to screw. You should want more than that. Find someone you can marry. If you feel having a slew of hoes promotes masculinity then you are just another male that's plain clueless. As a man you will know that pussy is pussy, and you should never fall in love with it, but fall in love with the intangibles that she possesses. How much pussy you obtained doesn't make you real, being real comes from your mind frame.
Being real means consistently standing up for what you believe in, instead of what's popular. Being a criminal just gives police a reason to arrest you, and judges merit to sentence you. But being a man who stands up for what his right but using intellect and intelligence makes you dangerous to the opposition. Not only are you bringing attention to issues, but you are probably motivating others to open their blind eyes to see what's really going on.
You need to realize our people, I'm talking before the transatlantic slave trade were kings and queens and we were raped of our heritage and force to to conform to what whites wanted. Our men were beaten, and forced to work miserable lives. If you won't do it for yourself st least do it for those men whose freedom was suspended, because that slave blood is running through you. You owe to those ancestors to make something your self than just another number in a prison or another dead man that a preacher has to lie about at a funeral.
I'm not preaching to you like I'm a saint because it took me to the age of 20 before I knew better, but its my moral obligation to motivate you to do better because besides the money, women, attention thugging isn't you, "you know you don't want to be involved With the underworld dealers, carriers and mac-miller's
East-coast bodiers, west-coast cap peelers
Little monkey niggas turn gorilla's"
So how about you calm down, yea you'll lose a lot of women, the quantity will fall, but the quality will make up for it. Money won't come as quickly, but the efficiency it comes in will make up for it. Most important the respect you will receive will last for generations. Remember it's cool to be smart because at the end of the day thugs don't retire well.
Dear Young Girl
Dear young lady,
I have been noticing your downward regression over the years. You were once an innocent black child that had the potential to be anything, you were ignorant to all of the evils of the world; sex, drugs, greed, and hate. It seems that as the days turned to weeks, the weeks into months and the months into years a lot has change not only on the outside of you but also your mental.
You were always that smart young lady, honor roll repetitive recipient, outstanding achievement awards, deemed teachers pet by some of your classmates who never were able to match academic success. As soon as you hit 13-14 your body started to change. Hips began to develope and breast began to form. Not only were you getting attention from teachers due to your grades, but the boys are starting to pay you attention that you never received before.
Since your father skipped out on you momma was the one to raise, a man was never their on the daily to remind you how beautiful you were on a regular basis. The attention these horny teenage boys were showing was something new, also something that kept a smile on your face. It was something that made you feel wanted it gave you the sense that your something special, distinct, that you possessed something that the other girls lacked. But you were so blinded by the attention you were given that you never noticed that you werent a hot commodity to them, but just a piece of raw, untouched convenient meat.
Years have pasted and now your 19, you been with your "first love" for about four years. You like love me because he still showing that you that male attention that you never received at home. Even with his cheating, verbal abuse, and lack of a progressive life you vowed to stay due to the child and the love you have for him.
More years past and you start to notice that no matter how much love you felt you had that love doesn't pay the bills. Plus section 8 tripping because a another man can't live with you, EBT funds become lower, and your child's life is deteriorating. So you told him to skate, but in reality your struggle becomes greater. Your a single black parent, whose title is "such and such baby momma" or "who such and such used to fuck with it," you have no work history, and your 21 with no idea where you want your life to go.
You're still heart broken from that lost love, so you're every week looking for love in the club thinking you will get from this tatted up dread head, with custom jewelry, that buying you drinks and telling you how sexy you are. He seems to live a hood rich lifestyle. Your numb to finding someone to share with, but you just want a man to care of you, while his intentions is for a women just to satisfy him on those 230am after the club let's out. Months past and you get burnt in more ways than one from you careless mistakes.
Now it seems that your life is in a repetitive cycle. You're out looking for some man to make your life worth it. Instead the whole time you should have been trying to find the love inside of you that motivated you to make your life worth living.
It upsets me that you became what a lot of women of your elk have became. I always thought you would be different though. I know the girls with a 3.5 GPA rarely get notice in the club by the "callers" on those drunken nights, it seems that only the girls in low cut dresses, with the measurement 34d, 25, 42. Even though you won't be the main attraction for there 300 guys in there, but if you just kept your life in order and continued to be the hardworking I wished you would have became whether it through college or just being the best at your full time job maybe not me, but some man would have loved you for that and you could have been his main concern. Even with a child you're still good in ny eyes because when you have the belief that you can jump over any hurdle that makes me become more in awe of you, but like so many others you just became another lost girl in the game.
I just pray my son doesn't have to write a letter to your daughter, I hope he only has to write wedding vows to her.
From
Someone who is concerned.
I have been noticing your downward regression over the years. You were once an innocent black child that had the potential to be anything, you were ignorant to all of the evils of the world; sex, drugs, greed, and hate. It seems that as the days turned to weeks, the weeks into months and the months into years a lot has change not only on the outside of you but also your mental.
You were always that smart young lady, honor roll repetitive recipient, outstanding achievement awards, deemed teachers pet by some of your classmates who never were able to match academic success. As soon as you hit 13-14 your body started to change. Hips began to develope and breast began to form. Not only were you getting attention from teachers due to your grades, but the boys are starting to pay you attention that you never received before.
Since your father skipped out on you momma was the one to raise, a man was never their on the daily to remind you how beautiful you were on a regular basis. The attention these horny teenage boys were showing was something new, also something that kept a smile on your face. It was something that made you feel wanted it gave you the sense that your something special, distinct, that you possessed something that the other girls lacked. But you were so blinded by the attention you were given that you never noticed that you werent a hot commodity to them, but just a piece of raw, untouched convenient meat.
Years have pasted and now your 19, you been with your "first love" for about four years. You like love me because he still showing that you that male attention that you never received at home. Even with his cheating, verbal abuse, and lack of a progressive life you vowed to stay due to the child and the love you have for him.
More years past and you start to notice that no matter how much love you felt you had that love doesn't pay the bills. Plus section 8 tripping because a another man can't live with you, EBT funds become lower, and your child's life is deteriorating. So you told him to skate, but in reality your struggle becomes greater. Your a single black parent, whose title is "such and such baby momma" or "who such and such used to fuck with it," you have no work history, and your 21 with no idea where you want your life to go.
You're still heart broken from that lost love, so you're every week looking for love in the club thinking you will get from this tatted up dread head, with custom jewelry, that buying you drinks and telling you how sexy you are. He seems to live a hood rich lifestyle. Your numb to finding someone to share with, but you just want a man to care of you, while his intentions is for a women just to satisfy him on those 230am after the club let's out. Months past and you get burnt in more ways than one from you careless mistakes.
Now it seems that your life is in a repetitive cycle. You're out looking for some man to make your life worth it. Instead the whole time you should have been trying to find the love inside of you that motivated you to make your life worth living.
It upsets me that you became what a lot of women of your elk have became. I always thought you would be different though. I know the girls with a 3.5 GPA rarely get notice in the club by the "callers" on those drunken nights, it seems that only the girls in low cut dresses, with the measurement 34d, 25, 42. Even though you won't be the main attraction for there 300 guys in there, but if you just kept your life in order and continued to be the hardworking I wished you would have became whether it through college or just being the best at your full time job maybe not me, but some man would have loved you for that and you could have been his main concern. Even with a child you're still good in ny eyes because when you have the belief that you can jump over any hurdle that makes me become more in awe of you, but like so many others you just became another lost girl in the game.
I just pray my son doesn't have to write a letter to your daughter, I hope he only has to write wedding vows to her.
From
Someone who is concerned.
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