Brenda is Still Having Babies and Maury is Still Making 7 Million.

Brenda is still having babies while Maury is currently receiving 7 million annually.

I've noticed that many of the guest on the Maury show are black. Of course other race and ethnic groups appear, but a large number look like me, and you. We can't blame producers of shows like this entirely for the very small fabrication that they have strategically decided to portray to the masses.

Majority of the blame has to be placed on us. Our papas are rolling stones, we are leaving sons to be the "man" of the house, our daughters are living in households that lack a male figure to tell and show them how much they love them on a daily basis. Also our young males and females have been embedded with this back against the wall, niggas/b*****s ain't shit, that we can only trust ourselves and that relationship will only end in heartbreak way of thinking.

It seems as though our community treats these problems like a bad car accident; we hate it, and are disgusted by it, but we still stand in the background and watch. We watch as 90% percent of black children are forced to grow up in a household where both biological parent aren't present. We continue to watch as some men (I use this term loosely) plant their seed in these women and leave that seed to grow without the fathers care. We continue to see women struggle raising children, but yet they continue to birth more. It seems that it is a continuous cycle that repeats generation after generation. I've seen with my grandmother, and my own mom. So maybe the question should be is; whether having a stable household something that's learned or biological?

At times I think its learned because I saw I tweet from a young lady that said, "maybe if my father was in my life I might have dated different types of men, or turned out a little differently." Maybe, or maybe its definite that fathers need to be the first male a girl loves, not the first guy that has her legs open. She needs to have that protector that feels she can run to and confide in, not that "thug" that she feels she loves, whom most likely will abuse emotional in a direct way unlike her father who abused her indirectly by not being present. Also how do sons learn to treat women when the man who is presented with that responsibility abandons them and forces them to learn from people who either do not know how to teach or do not have their best interest in mind, but fathers aren't entirely to blame.

Mothers also have parental responsibility to teach their sons to be better individuals. Whether its providing them with a positive male figure. It can be from a big brother program or an uncle who can help show them the ropes. Most of the things I personally know came from my uncles. Even though black mothers over time have been giving the title of "superwoman" due to them being forced to play both roles. Also when their sons mess up they can't use this as a time to tell the child that he is being a disappoint just like his father was. I remember countless times my mother would tell me anytime that I did something negative that it reminded her of my father. Also their daughters must know that good black men do exist, we all are not cheaters, liars, or do we abandon our children. Daughters must also know that having a man doesn't define their womanhood, and they should never compromise their sexuality, morals, or goals to satisfy a man's ego.

Even though this is simply my opinion it still raises the question of how do will turn around hundreds of years of broken families. Yes we do have black families that have broken the cycle, but we still have a long way to go. We still have to deal with the notions of playing with cards that we've been dealt or it being Mamas baby, Papas maybe. Ever since slavery black families were forced to be broken up, but slavery in physical form has been deceased, but mentally we still walk around in shackles. The question isn't when are we going to break these cycles, but how, and why do they still exist?