When most people think about discrimination we all recall the Irish people when they migrated to America, Spanish speaking immigrants or illegal aliens, or even the first Africans who landed in America from that Dutch ship. Even before Africans Kings or families of royalty were enslaving persons of their own color another group, actually the largest minority were being persecuted in ways that were far from equal but damn near inhumane. If you haven't figured it out by the title or the quick little intro, but I'm talking about women.
The word Bitch is not just a female dog when looked up in a dictionary, but Bitch is more than a word. Bitch is a global used word which may not be politically acceptable, but it is used in one form or another in almost every cultural to not only dehumanize women, but to extract every thing about them that makes them the greatest creation that GOD has placed on this earth. A good number of Men have been guilty of using these terms, including myself. I won't include extravagant gay males because that's a whole totally different blog. I think of myself as the man who uses the word bitch as that of the white male/female who says the "N" word while he/she’s is reciting their favorite Jay-Z (pick your favorite rappers) song. Not that I’m trying to blame it on music but in a way to show that the word is so accepted in this culture that some don't even think twice when it is spoken.
I feel at times males need to let go of the argument, "I should be able to refer to her as a bitch if she calls her female and gay friends that." In all actuality that's a straw mans argument just as the straw mans defense of, "how would you feel if that was your mother or sister."
When another male calls a woman a bitch it’s more than calling her a dog, it’s a way to define her in ways that hasn't been deemed acceptable for you to refer to her as. Not only are you giving her meaning in life definition, but you are also showing thoughts of egoistical male domination supremacy over women. Even though some women refer to others as that, that still doesn't give me as a male the right to return those hurtful connotations in response. As a society we have said it was wrong but it seems that we have gotten upset, irritated, and jealous when women have given the term an ambiguous meaning for uses between each other, but we got mad not because the word was disrespectful but because we tried to take it back and women due to the efforts of so many women rights activist (Susan b Anthony, Abigal Adams, Sojourner Truth etc) they are able to STAND UP AND SELL HELL NO.
In the beginning I had the "U Wonda Why They Call You Bitch" attitude of Pac, but through the test time it reverted back to his song "Never Call you Bitch Again" True story.
Sunday, July 4, 2010
Not Being Welfare, When did It Become Coo To Brag About It.
Even though I am more of a tweeter (follow me @blovelace1027) I do seem to check up on the local pregnant, beef, drama, and fuckery news that Facebook has to offer. Ever since Facebook lifted its ban and allowed non college emails access to a world of social networking a lot has changed with the site. Many might say that Myspace and Blackplanet have been resurrected into Facebook. One thing that I’ve notice from a good portion of my Facebook “friends” is that a lot think not living on welfare makes you the shit (no toilet).
These are quote, or paraphrases that I’ve found on my Facebook time line, don’t catch feelings when it’s the truth: “I wish I could sit at home all day and get a check” “Going to work to take care of these lazy b*****s” “Dumb broads in keno tricking off their ADC checks” There are many more but I don’t want to take away from the point and the message that I’m trying to feed you through this blog.
I can’t lie and say I don’t get upset when people especially those of colors abuse the system for selfish reason, not because of the 150-200 dollar worth of taxes taken out each month, but because as a person who believes that black people are worth more than we are stereotypically thought of. I understand some of those people who work that 9-11 dollar an hour full-time job who always seem to struggle at the end of the month due to living expenses, whether it be bills and/or children, but they hear or see someone living off government sponsored programs. You have a right to question the state of where your tax dollars are going, but you don’t have the right to generalize a group of government welfare recipients, mainly because you don’t know their struggle that has helped authored their story.
Many blacks have been subjected to gentrification or other types of political and financial methods to keep minorities from achieving gains like those of our white counterparts. Even though many black people have made it through the game of life, with the rules not playing in their favor, many more have not.
When blacks generalize other blacks we are just as guilty as the whites who referred to welfare recipients as “Welfare Queens.” From my observations from a limited sample of FB friends that I have, I’ve noticed that majority of the people who have these views are two missed paychecks, away from applying government assistance, whether it be food stamps, subsidized housing, monetary checks, or even free post high school education.
The next time you find its appropriate for you to talk down on the next one, remember you’re a couple missed paychecks from their situation. The reason for that is because people who are truly getting many in a major don’t way don’t have time to look down they are too busy looking up.
These are quote, or paraphrases that I’ve found on my Facebook time line, don’t catch feelings when it’s the truth: “I wish I could sit at home all day and get a check” “Going to work to take care of these lazy b*****s” “Dumb broads in keno tricking off their ADC checks” There are many more but I don’t want to take away from the point and the message that I’m trying to feed you through this blog.
I can’t lie and say I don’t get upset when people especially those of colors abuse the system for selfish reason, not because of the 150-200 dollar worth of taxes taken out each month, but because as a person who believes that black people are worth more than we are stereotypically thought of. I understand some of those people who work that 9-11 dollar an hour full-time job who always seem to struggle at the end of the month due to living expenses, whether it be bills and/or children, but they hear or see someone living off government sponsored programs. You have a right to question the state of where your tax dollars are going, but you don’t have the right to generalize a group of government welfare recipients, mainly because you don’t know their struggle that has helped authored their story.
Many blacks have been subjected to gentrification or other types of political and financial methods to keep minorities from achieving gains like those of our white counterparts. Even though many black people have made it through the game of life, with the rules not playing in their favor, many more have not.
When blacks generalize other blacks we are just as guilty as the whites who referred to welfare recipients as “Welfare Queens.” From my observations from a limited sample of FB friends that I have, I’ve noticed that majority of the people who have these views are two missed paychecks, away from applying government assistance, whether it be food stamps, subsidized housing, monetary checks, or even free post high school education.
The next time you find its appropriate for you to talk down on the next one, remember you’re a couple missed paychecks from their situation. The reason for that is because people who are truly getting many in a major don’t way don’t have time to look down they are too busy looking up.
Sunday, June 6, 2010
A Trip to the Salon, Whats the Worst That Could Happen?
Fads are created by trendsetters, fads don’t last long, and about the time they start trendsetters are already on to the next one. I’m not suggesting you’re out of pocket for following what’s popular, but some fads can have costly effects, not just money wise, but can be socially embarrassing. The popular thing for the ladies for the moment is what I like to call the Keri Hilson cut (only because I’m in love with her, not the music just her). But some women have taken drastic measures and have cut their hair low like a Nigga.
When you walk in the salon and you ask for that Amber Rose cut, remember you don’t look like her. Your head shape isn’t the same, and your facial features may be more exaggerated compared to hers. Understand that most celebrities have the best of the best stylist whipping their hair up, while a good number of you imitators probably have a home girl that’s just graduated from Joseph’s that’s willing to hook you up for the low low because they are trying to pay them student loans back. Don’t get me wrong I’m all for eliminating the Eurocentric epistemological ideal of what beauty is, but natural isn’t for everybody.
Before you get on that India Arie “I am not my Hair” (note she has weave now) it’s a chance you will be very lonely during those late night storms, I might add those nights almost always provide for the best cuddling/sexual experience moments. So before you think the stylist will give you that Keri Hilson or that Amber Rose, you might end up with the Prince, or the Rasheed Wallace cut.
I’m not saying it can not be done, I know a good 4-5 people that have actually enhanced the black essence of beauty through natural and short hair, but to pull this look off its more than a haircut, it’s the lifestyle that comes with it. To have this haircut you must have a persona that is free, one that doesn’t follows the rules that society places on women, but the rules your inner woman places on yourself.
I commend the woman who cut their hair for the reason not of going against what the European influence of beauty is, but because to them they define what beauty is, not what any other persons influence decides it is. For those women who only follow what is popular, but come out looking great congratulations you look like every other follower in the club, but for those who look crazier then a muthaf%&$#^r that’s what you get for following trends and not YOU.
When you walk in the salon and you ask for that Amber Rose cut, remember you don’t look like her. Your head shape isn’t the same, and your facial features may be more exaggerated compared to hers. Understand that most celebrities have the best of the best stylist whipping their hair up, while a good number of you imitators probably have a home girl that’s just graduated from Joseph’s that’s willing to hook you up for the low low because they are trying to pay them student loans back. Don’t get me wrong I’m all for eliminating the Eurocentric epistemological ideal of what beauty is, but natural isn’t for everybody.
Before you get on that India Arie “I am not my Hair” (note she has weave now) it’s a chance you will be very lonely during those late night storms, I might add those nights almost always provide for the best cuddling/sexual experience moments. So before you think the stylist will give you that Keri Hilson or that Amber Rose, you might end up with the Prince, or the Rasheed Wallace cut.
I’m not saying it can not be done, I know a good 4-5 people that have actually enhanced the black essence of beauty through natural and short hair, but to pull this look off its more than a haircut, it’s the lifestyle that comes with it. To have this haircut you must have a persona that is free, one that doesn’t follows the rules that society places on women, but the rules your inner woman places on yourself.
I commend the woman who cut their hair for the reason not of going against what the European influence of beauty is, but because to them they define what beauty is, not what any other persons influence decides it is. For those women who only follow what is popular, but come out looking great congratulations you look like every other follower in the club, but for those who look crazier then a muthaf%&$#^r that’s what you get for following trends and not YOU.
Friday, June 4, 2010
Pregancy, how you make that racist?
If you are familiar with the lifetime movie “Pregnancy Pact,” then you have a basis of what happened in Gloucester, Massachusetts, basically a bunch of white girls decided to get pregnant at the same time, (not meaning to sound like a bigot, but it will make sense later) at the same school. This kind of reminds me of Northwest high school during my tenure, from 2003-2007, I’m just saying.
I read about this piece and listened to a few news reports a couple years ago, funny thing is the reason on why a bunch of white girls wanted to get pregnant at the same time where idiotic and intellectually immature. Before I explain the suggested reasons for this occurrence of teenage pregnancies of white teens at this school, please think about stereotypes of teen black mothers.
Due to a struggling economy, single parent households, and lack of direction for young women, pregnancy among teens have risen, according to news reporters, which I assume have at least a Master’s degree, or even a Bachelors. Even though I’m laughing while writing this they even blamed it on the media glorifying pregnancy with people like Jamie Lynn Spears (Brittney’s sister) and movies like “Juno”. Is it just me, but are these white middle classes girls given the same excuses that some whites who believe that they are on the hierarchy use to discriminate black folks.
If you are familiar, matter fact if you are black yo ass better be familiar with Tupacs “Brenda’s Gotta Baby” he explains this situation very well. I will give my interoperation on THE THE REMIX, or part 2 of this blog.
I read about this piece and listened to a few news reports a couple years ago, funny thing is the reason on why a bunch of white girls wanted to get pregnant at the same time where idiotic and intellectually immature. Before I explain the suggested reasons for this occurrence of teenage pregnancies of white teens at this school, please think about stereotypes of teen black mothers.
Due to a struggling economy, single parent households, and lack of direction for young women, pregnancy among teens have risen, according to news reporters, which I assume have at least a Master’s degree, or even a Bachelors. Even though I’m laughing while writing this they even blamed it on the media glorifying pregnancy with people like Jamie Lynn Spears (Brittney’s sister) and movies like “Juno”. Is it just me, but are these white middle classes girls given the same excuses that some whites who believe that they are on the hierarchy use to discriminate black folks.
If you are familiar, matter fact if you are black yo ass better be familiar with Tupacs “Brenda’s Gotta Baby” he explains this situation very well. I will give my interoperation on THE THE REMIX, or part 2 of this blog.
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